A Note of Thanks

Practicing thankfulness can be particularly powerful when it’s expressed to others. Sending a note of thanks is not just good etiquette, it’s good for you.  Many of us are aware of the benefits of gratitude and a note of thanks is simply that, an expression of gratitude.

This time of year, I’m reminded that good manners mean more than simply fulfilling social obligations. Being grateful is an opportunity to connect with friends and family in a more meaningful way.

As Thanksgiving nears and holiday gifts begin to arrive, it’s a great time to organize your favorite stationary and those special cards collected during travels. Schedule time each week to practice my version of a Buddhist exercise called Naikan. By reflecting on the question, “What have I received this week?” and looking back at your calendar, recollect a special gathering you attended, a gift received or a simple act of kindness, and resolve to write a thank-you.  This simple act alone can increase your sense of contentment and in turn, increase feelings of joy and happiness. Before putting your pen to paper you’ll be filled with optimism and energy.  

In an increasingly informal digital world, I certainly welcome a note of gratitude however it arrives, but there is something about a handwritten thank-you. Opening it is like unwrapping a gift, and the subtle message is that the sender greatly appreciated the effort you made on their behalf.

Oftentimes I’ll save a beautifully written card or heartfelt note, propping it up on my desk for a while—it makes me cheerful and encourages me to reach out to the person who sent it. When I receive a note of thanks from a new acquaintance I know I’m appreciated and valued, and that deepens our relationship immediately.

Practicing gratitude is something we should do regularly, over time, and sending a note of thanks is certainly good etiquette.  Take time this week to write a note of thanks acknowledging those who touched your life in a meaningful way, and enhance your own feelings of well-being in the process. It’s a great way to kick off the holiday season.