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Aunt Marion’s Apple Dressing

Food is an important ingredient in every family’s history, and revisiting recipes is an enjoyable way to discover lost traditions. Among my favorite food memories are the weekly luncheons I shared with my elegant aunt Marion. The daughter of Sicilian immigrants who came to American in the late 1800’s, Marion’s food was simple and delicious. Like other immigrants, her mother brought recipes, raw ingredients, even seeds from her homeland, and Marion learned to blend those precious gifts with their new American way of life.

I looked forward to her honest cooking, the delightful aromas that welcomed you as you entered her home, and the details of Marion’s perfectly set table—beautifully arranged, layered with fabric, and heirloom china, artfully mixed with something decidedly kitschy. Her gorgeous, but mischievous Siamese cats stood sentry in the entrance hall—they’d mark their territory by maneuvering in and out of a guests’ legs, and when they succeeded at tripping one, they’d dart away, with smiles on their rascally feline faces.

It is said that a family recipe can tell the story of who we are and where we’ve been. Perhaps that’s why I’m eager to collect my family recipes, and this one arrived just in time for Thanksgiving. In my aunt’s original recipe, she used Pepperidge Farm bread cubes and roasted chestnuts—a nod to the confluence of factors influencing the culinary world at that time, a rise in the number supermarkets and pre-packaged foods combined with a renewed fascination with classical European cooking.

You are welcome to use packaged bread cubes, but my preference is to make them from scratch using good-quality breads and seasonings that create an unmistakable Thanksgiving aroma—one that was most uniquely Marion’s. I also swapped out the butter for Ghee. On Marion’s lovely hand-written recipe, she labeled this recipe Apple Stuffing.  It’s just too good, too delicious to put inside a bird, and clearly intended to be dressing—with melted cheese overtop and slightly browned bread cubes, this is an aromatic side dish meant to soak up every bit of turkey gravy. My uncles were big meat eaters and so Marion had a note on the back of her recipe “sausage is optional.” She suggests removing the casing from one package of frozen Jones sausage, browning the meat, and draining it well before adding it to the dressing mixture. 

Yield: Serves 16

Annie’s Homemade Bread Cubes

Easy, homemade bread cubes add texture and flavor to stuffing and dressing recipes.  They are perfect for breakfast casseroles, and add a delightful crunch when tossed with salads or served atop a hot bowl of soup. This recipe was inspired by my Aunt Marion’s Apple Dressing recipe, and included a Rye Hearth Bread and Spent Grain Hearth Bread both from Whole Foods, but you can work with any bread you like, including what you may already have in your freezer.

Store extra bread cubes in an airtight container for up to a week, or in the freezer for three months.

Yield: Makes 10 Cups

A Note of Thanks

Practicing thankfulness can be particularly powerful when it’s expressed to others. Sending a note of thanks is not just good etiquette, it’s good for you.  Many of us are aware of the benefits of gratitude and a note of thanks is simply that, an expression of gratitude.

This time of year, I’m reminded that good manners mean more than simply fulfilling social obligations. Being grateful is an opportunity to connect with friends and family in a more meaningful way.

As Thanksgiving nears and holiday gifts begin to arrive, it’s a great time to organize your favorite stationary and those special cards collected during travels. Schedule time each week to practice my version of a Buddhist exercise called Naikan. By reflecting on the question, “What have I received this week?” and looking back at your calendar, recollect a special gathering you attended, a gift received or a simple act of kindness, and resolve to write a thank-you.  This simple act alone can increase your sense of contentment and in turn, increase feelings of joy and happiness. Before putting your pen to paper you’ll be filled with optimism and energy.  

In an increasingly informal digital world, I certainly welcome a note of gratitude however it arrives, but there is something about a handwritten thank-you. Opening it is like unwrapping a gift, and the subtle message is that the sender greatly appreciated the effort you made on their behalf.

Oftentimes I’ll save a beautifully written card or heartfelt note, propping it up on my desk for a while—it makes me cheerful and encourages me to reach out to the person who sent it. When I receive a note of thanks from a new acquaintance I know I’m appreciated and valued, and that deepens our relationship immediately.

Practicing gratitude is something we should do regularly, over time, and sending a note of thanks is certainly good etiquette.  Take time this week to write a note of thanks acknowledging those who touched your life in a meaningful way, and enhance your own feelings of well-being in the process. It’s a great way to kick off the holiday season.