The choice of a theme is an important part of every great dinner party. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the first step in your planning, but it is a cornerstone that will influence every other aspect, from the food to the décor. Sometimes a theme is defined by the event itself, like Thanksgiving, Halloween or Independence Day. Other times, finding a fresh approach can take a bit of brainstorming.
If an event isn’t tied to a specific holiday, I always look to my surroundings and the season for inspiration. The right flowers and color scheme can combine for an elegant and simple concept. A few years ago, we had an enormous hydrangea bush in full bloom outside my home in the Hamptons. I was so inspired by the color of the deep, dark, royal purple flowers that I centered a dinner party menu and tabletop design around it. My guests were delighted and everyone went home with a bouquet.
Sometimes, collaborating with a chef, or playing around with menu options, can bring about a common thread that will serve as your motif. For example, if a menu circles around foods from the French countryside, a blue and yellow tabletop with ceramic roosters and rustic flowers feels natural and authentic.
When planning a large gala or an elaborate birthday party, a multi-layered theme that’s innovative and fun will help guests get in the mood. The “Groovy Sixties” of the Austin Powers films is one of my favorites and I’ve used this theme many times for gatherings large and small. The 1960s are renowned for psychedelic colors, go-go dancers, and Twiggy-inspired clothing, giving friends lots of easy costume opportunities—and scattering the tables with sets of false teeth just like Austin’s lets everyone join in for fun photo ops! Look to other famous films—or the classic books that have inspired them (like The Great Gatsby or The Wizard of Oz) for themes that everyone will enjoy taking part in.
With a great theme there are endless ways to get your guests in the party mood. And don’t be afraid to recycle a theme—just be sure the same guests aren’t in attendance!







